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Essays In Love

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However, when I’m acutely aware that the other person is supermegafoxyawesomehot, then I immediately take on the burden of feeling boring and tedious. The Jesus complex was nothing more than a self-defence mechanism, I had not wanted Chloe to leave me, I had loved her more than I had ever loved a woman, but now that she had flown to California, my way of accepting the unbearable loss was to reinvent how valuable she had been in the first place. When Chloe and the protagonist (I suppose his name is Alain — we are never completely sure of that) first met in a chapter titled “ Romantic Fatalism”, De Botton wrote about our motivations in falling in love as a desire to invent a destiny so as to spare ourselves the anxiety that no one has written our story or assured our loves, that we are eager to locate inside another person a perfection that eludes within ourselves, and ultimately “ hope to maintain a precarious faith in our species.

Then again, I wouldn’t say I have a lot of experience in this realm so I probably need to get a second opinion. The narrator is distraught and contemplates suicide, then thinks that Chloe just didn’t get him and that he will always be the outsider. I’m also very good at nursing grudges so that and my disappointed idealism are a devastating combination. If someone were to fall for me, wouldn’t they be agreeing to put up with those red flags, and then doesn’t that make them a questionable person? I have a lot of time for Alain de Botton, I loved 'A Week At The Airport' and enjoyed 'The Consolations of Philosophy'.So, to have it written that even the best relationships don’t have that element of complete vulnerability was heartening.

The feeling is more along the lines of, “I wish I could be attracted to this person because I know I could probably make them like me if I tried hard enough. It’s still so difficult to be assertive though and stress-eating in my room while contemplating the horrendous state of my life just feels like the easier option. And that is already illogical thinking because duh doy, of course, such a person doesn’t exist (*sigh*) and I, as Bo Burnham said, have to lower my expectations. There was a chapter where the narrator visited Chloe’s childhood home (and her family) and realised just how little he knew about her.It may be a sign that two people have stopped loving one another (or at least stopped wishing to make the effort that constitutes ninety per cent of love) when they are no longer able to spin differences into jokes. We locate inside another a perfection that eludes us within ourselves, and through our union with the beloved hope to maintain (against the evidence of all self-knowledge) a precarious faith in our species. Our selves could be compared to an amoeba, whose outer walls are elastic, and therefore adapt to the environment. Then, on holiday, Chloe reveals she doesn’t like being with him anymore and has been seeing his colleague, Will. I’d first discovered its possibilities when reading Montaigne’s Essays, where the author takes the reader around some highly thought-provoking philosophical ideas, in a tome that is intimate, digressive and charming.

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